Dear Flair:

There was this guy who my friend dated for a while (like two weeks) and she repeatedly told me that they were just sleeping together, no strings attached.

However, all along I thought the guy was nice. We were just always friends who would talk occasionally about life and issues that we were going through but we never talked about being together or even gave each other any ideas that we were interested in a relationship or anything like that.

Every day I would send text messages to my friends (everybody in my contact list), encouraging them to stay focused and to be strong. So one day I sent a text and he replied by asking who I was because he noticed that he had been getting texts from my number. I replied telling him who I was and after that we began sending texts to each other. By this time, he told me that he and my friend were no longer together and it wasn't a relationship. He said they were just sleeping with each other (which was confirmed by my friend too).

Totally upset

Eventually we started dating, hanging out and stuff like that. It was great, we had a lot of fun together. However, after a month or so, my friend found out about the relationship and I told her the truth. I told her that we were hanging out and she was totally upset and she told everybody that I stabbed her in the back and how I was a whore. She was really hurt. I tried to understand where she was coming from, even though she told me repeatedly that they were only just sleeping with each other.

After all the drama, the relationship with the guy and I ended. He went away to study and when he got back, he wanted us to link up but I wasn't up for it. My friend and I also ended our relationship simply because I'm still upset that she told everybody that I was a whore and I think she's still upset because I dated her ex.

I guess the relationship was off- limits, but who decides this anyway? Is it off-limits if it meant nothing to the friend?

- Flair reader