Dear Soloist:
I just read your article about the 67-year-old oversexed woman and was quite bemused by it.
Actually, as we in Jamaica would say, "it mash mi corn". I lost my wife three years ago but the difference is she was only 30 years old and a beautiful professional who had everything going for her. We did not know that she was ill and at age 43, I was devastated!
Recently, I've been trying to foster a meaningful relationship. sadly, however, this has been difficult. Women who are potentially serious tend to be in the 'older' age group and are not sexually desirable, while the younger sexy girls are just seeking a 'sugar daddy'.
Re your suggestion to the woman: In essence, you're suggesting she gets herself a male prostitute. Bad idea. She needs to foster a real relationship with someone. She can still find a good man who is trustworthy.
- Don
Sexual promiscuity
Dear Soloist:
I sincerely hope your personal view on the subject is meant to be a joke. If not, then I am appalled at the careless recommendation you make and the reduction of sexual interaction to something of a sport.
I would be very surprised if any woman, of any age, who is recently widowed after having had a long and committed relationship with her husband, would be anything except devoid of any sexual interest in anyone for some time until the grieving period has ended. Certainly, a mere six months of widowhood would not be enough to engender raw sexual longing if their relationship had been based on anything more than just pure feral couplings.
Second, if the longings are just only so carnal, why would the individual with whom she chooses to relieve such longings have to be half her age? Would someone the same age not be appropriate, 10 years younger or older? Why are you trying to reduce women to competing with men in the race for sexual promiscuity?
You are supposed to be a responsible women's magazine, providing informed opinion and information to your readers. For God's sake, hire a psychologist or a trained professional to provide advice and information and stop doing the sensationalist type of writing and recommendations that I have noticed of late. It might create a 'buzz' but it is hardly responsible journalism.
- Lelia Hamilton
We need fun too
Hi Soloist:
I totally agree with you, go for it. Why are men able to do things without a single thought and women have to stand and burn?
Sex and pleasure were made for both male and female. We need some fun as well.
- Denise Gopie
One life to live
Hi Soloist:
I'm responding to the article about the hot 60-plus woman. She should find a hot young boy-toy to have fun with, finding what she had before is next to impossible. She will have to spend some money; that's the nature of the game. But she has to be wise and not fall for him or she will be used.
She had an amazing life with a wonderful man; almost any single man in that age group who would be flawed, to put it nicely. Unless it's someone of similar circumstances. You only live once so enjoy what's left. Good luck to you and may God bless you. Sorry about the loss of your husband.
D.N.
Find a widower
Hi Soloist:
Your article is hardly intended to be serious. Why you would choose to promote such a promiscuous lifestyle to a grandmother is beyond me. This is again a case of people picking up fads from Hollywood ... the so-called cougars who appear to be the vogue nowadays. it's repulsive and these women ought to be ashamed.
While the 67-year-old is struting about with her boy-toy, she will be the butt of jokes among her friends ... what could a 67-year-old possibly have in common with a man half her age?
And he could hardly claim in all honesty to find her drop-dead gorgeous when you have the pick of all these skimpily clad young girls around Jamaica. Why not encourage her to find the Lord in preparation for the after-life or to engage in good works in her community? Who knows, maybe she will find a decent pensioned widower in her church to spend the rest of her days with.
- Zev Love